« When we get a call from someone about a person who is interested in us, we can often say, ‘Yes, I know what you’re looking for.
When you get a phone call from a woman who has a great career, and she’s an accomplished artist, or a successful lawyer, or even a high-level business executive, it can be a great way to have a strong emotional connection. «
For a lot of people, this kind of thing is more about the emotional connection than it is about the physical connection.
When you get a phone call from a woman who has a great career, and she’s an accomplished artist, or a successful lawyer, or even a high-level business executive, it can be a great way to have a strong emotional connection.
But it’s also a very different experience if you’re in a relationship with someone who is not that well known, and they’re not in the same league as you.
When I was in the military, I got married and we had four kids, and there was this very special moment in my life when we realized, ‘OK, we’re in the process of trying to figure out how we can be more successful together.
I’m not trying to be a super-brilliant strategist or anything. «
I’m not saying that this is how all of us would go about it.
I’m not trying to be a super-brilliant strategist or anything.
The first thing I would say is you have an opportunity to do your research. «
So how do you do that?
The first thing I would say is you have an opportunity to do your research.
What are the kinds of things that women want from you?
Are they looking for someone who has the same interests as you?
Or are they looking to make a difference in your life?
How am I likely to make this connection? «
The next step is to ask yourself, ‘How am I going to meet this person?
How am I likely to make this connection?
How is this person going to feel about me?’
You’re going be asking yourself these questions all the time.
You have to figure that out for yourselves. »
« I think we all feel that the more we spend time with someone, the more that person is going to come to see that we are like them, and that we care about them, that we love them, even if we don’t know how that feels to us.
I think you have a lot to lose if you don’t spend time together. »
« So how are we going to do that? »
« You have to ask these questions, because you have no idea.
And I think that you have more of an advantage than most people if you figure it out.
If you think that the other person has more money, you can’t get away with that.
You can’t be like, ‘This is the guy who’s not going to have enough money to pay for my kids.’
You have got to figure it all out for your own advantage. »
The best way for women to connect with men in this business is to have fun.
« I remember being in a meeting and being told that a woman was going to be doing a lot on her website and a lot in front of the camera.
I was like, I’m going to sit at home and take photos of all the women that I think will be there.
And it just never worked out.
And so I started going to these networking events, where I’d go out and meet people.
And you’re doing it because you feel like you have some responsibility to do it.
You don’t think, ‘Oh, I can’t really do this for a while.’
But you want to.
And that’s not just for women.
It’s for men, too. »
How to get started: This article is from New York magazine.